In English this week we read the first 4 chapters of A Tale of Two Cities. The beginning of chapter 3 “The Night Shadow” began with a paragraph speaking about secrets. The first sentence being,
A WONDERFUL fact to reflect upon, that every human creature is constituted to be that profound secret and mystery to every other.”
It got me thinking about how much we might actually know about each other and that it would be impossible to find out everyone’s secrets.
Even if a married couple were to make a vow of having no secrets between each other, it would not exempt from the fact that they have never been with that person every day, hour, minute, or second or their lives. Even though they might tell them their deepest darkest secret that has never been told to anyone else, there is still the secret of that one Monday in 2004 that the husband cried from watching The Notebook, or that one evening in October when the wife was stuck on a toilet with an explosive case of diarrhea. These were from times that the couple didn’t even know each other. Although not thought of as a “secret” the definition of secret I found online was, “kept hidden from knowledge or view; concealed.” These two events were kept hidden from each others’ knowledge, not intentionally but it was something not thought of as a secret and therefore not needed to be shared. No one needs to know that last night I ate stir fried noodles, but if it was probably hidden from someone’s knowledge. I guess it’s my secret.
Of course it still doesn’t take away from the fact that we have intentional secrets deep within our soul. No matter what age, gender, race, or class each one of us has a secret locked inside and the key lost deep within our minds.
In the words of the old 2005 song,
Who has to know?
When we live such fragile lives
It’s the best way we survive
That’s right, “Dirty Little Secret” by The All-American Rejects. Secrets have always been a touchy subject for some people. Why? Because no one wants to admit that they’re not transparent. That the person that we see everyday isn’t exactly what they seem. No one wants to ruin their reputation to admit that they have something deep within in that no one is supposed to know. It shows a weakness or vulnerability. It shows that they have a dark side. That’s what makes secrets so attractive and alluring. Most popular books, movies, TV shows are about a secret. They include Pretty Little Liars, Harry Potter, Gossip Girl and anything related to vampires. Supernatural or not, the idea of living secret lives appeal to people because we secretly relate. We just have to accept the fact that we all have our own secrets no matter how transparent we try to be. It doesn’t make you any worse of a person, it just makes you well, human.